At the age of 17 I was seduced into the world of kink and hedonism. My second ever sexual experience was orchestrated by my first Dominant, who happened to be a white man with swastikas entwined within his faded tattoos, and his two girlfriends, both white and respectively 5 and 11 years older at the time. I was an apprentice in his tattoo shop, right at the dawn of my life path journey. I was trained as a submissive, but very soon realized that I was not only uncomfortable in that position, but I also had some learning to do, on my own. Being sexualized, fetishized and gate-kept from the kink community, because I was young, black and born female, lit a fire inside me to carve a place for myself in this world. As I grew, I learned more and more, on my own, despite not having a mentor I could rely on.
My life has read like a movie that’s confused about its genre, but I hold on to no regrets.
My relationship with that polycule taught me how to embrace my Dominant nature, as well as what not to do as a responsible D-type.
Over the years I have explored my nature and pushed my own boundaries, from hedonism and ego, to mastery and psychological prowess, while pursuing and developing other talents and career paths. I went to culinary school and maintained an over decade long career in the culinary industry. I nurtured my artistic talent and created an art business, Macx Macabre Arts. I started in sex work as an adult content model and performer, and was actively discouraged from a career as a Dominant, by men who sought to keep me small. I had a child, and I worked as a home health aid for my grandmother until her passing. All the while I made many attempts to create the reality I wanted, but Spirit had other ideas. All the while, I grew.
After my grandmother’s passing, I decided it was time I dedicate myself to doing what I want to do. I created The Kinky Kafe LLC in order to alchemize my passions into something I could share with my community. The kind of kink space I needed when I was young and just discovering BDSM.
I am Daddy Doyenne. I am a pansexual, genderfluid Deity. My pronouns are they/them. My honorifics are Daddy, Goddexx, Mistrexx, or Sir. I am a pirate, witch, artist, a Chef, and a Mother. I am a burlesque performer, also by the name The Demonatrix. I am sensual and sadistic, nurturing, strict, and sometimes very blunt. I use my empathic ability to attune to my submissives, and bottoms, and they revel in my authority and natural power in return.
My presence is like being at the foot of an ancient and imposing, regal force, overflowing with feminine and masculine energy intertwined. I believe that kink is sacred and can be used in tandem with your spiritual hygiene routine, to mold you into the greatest version of yourself. I call it Intentional BDSM, some call it Divine. Let me show you.